is wherever you are
doing what ever you are doing
at any given moment.
Sooooo, who decides if you should be happy, and what’s best for you?
On one side are folks who answer quickly: “I decide if I am happy.” On the other side are folks who answer quickly “I decide if you should be happy.” It’s easy to see why there appears to be so much struggle and angst – those two positions are polarity – opposite ends, and as such, repel each other. Which are you?
Are you choosing to be happy? Or, are you waiting for someone or something else's approval or permission in order to feel happy?
What we call happiness is another way of describing a dominant feeling or emotional state. It’s on the high end towards JOY, which appears to be as delightful a state of being as we can manage at the moment in our spiritual evolution. We equate JOY with LOVE.
People often describe their happiness in terms of loving and being loved. Indeed, we do feel happy when we are loved and we feel happy when we love. This is unconditional love, no strings attached. That which we call Love cannot have conditions or strings for if they are present, it is not love, but something else.
I like to substitute the word APPRECIATION for Love. They are virtually synonymous. Yet when we appreciate someone or something there's no "exchange" necessary - what are you going to do for me? Appreciation is just that - a positive, uplifting, joyful feeling of enjoying the focus of your appreciation. Simple.
Sometimes folks fuss about how silly this concept is - Choose happiness or choose whatever and it'll happen. They don't believe in magic. Me neither. It's not magic. It's physics. You KNOW how it WORKS because you choose and create your experience every moment.
An example: You decide you would enjoy dining out. You make a decision that you will go out to eat and at once you begin drawing to you all the resources necessary to create that desire. You select a time, you choose what restaurant, you may invite a friend or someone who you believe would enjoy dining out as much as you. You determine the means of exchange for the meal (a.k.a cash, credit, debit card), and time passes, moving you closer to the event. And then you go out to eat - having determined how you would get there physically - you drove your car this time.
This IS creation, this IS how it works. You DO it constantly, you are good at it. What we often miss, is that we CAN create our level of joy, our experience, just as easily as we can create a dining experience, or shopping experience, or going to work experience, or, well, anything.