The premise of this blog is that thinking always precedes and influences experience. What you hold as dominant thoughts (often called beliefs) in your mind determine the experiences attracted by them. That's one reason why Charles Fillmore said if you're unhappy with your life, change your thinking. It is possible to deliberately think, rather than mentally react and respond to what the senses are interpreting.
If it wasn't your mother, then perhaps it was a grandmother, or aunt, or other older, wiser woman (usually) who admonished young you that if you can't say something nice about someone, don't say anything at all.
There's great wisdom in that.
If you're not looking for something worthy about someone (or some situation or condition) then you're emphasizing an undesirable element that will become more a part of your experience. A.K.A. complaining.
I come back to this theme, complaining, because it is important. Happy people do not complain. The question begs, do unhappy people complain because they are unhappy? Or, are they unhappy because they complain? To escape that vicious circle of reason one must ask in earnest - do I want to be happy? If the answer is YES! then the process has begun. Yet if one doesn't "want to be happy" then no way can they feel such joy. There are many reasons why a person might not "want" or feel they "deserve" to be happy. More on them another time.
For the moment, let's realize that you can look for a compliment as easily as a complaint. It takes the same amount of time. Why not go for the compliment? If you want to be a happy person, then test it. Become more aware of complaining and find a compliment or appreciation instead. Notice how you literally feel when appreciating someone or something as opposed to complaining. It's self evident.
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